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40 Male Arousal Triggers – A Man’s 40 Sexiest Erogenous Zones

Let’s talk about arousal. You probably already know there are tons of different ways to set the vibes before sex. Your sex playlist, where you go at it, and how you go about touching your partner(s) all play a major role in your overall sexperience. But what turns one person on might not do the job for another, which is where things can get complicated. The good news is, even though everyone’s different, when hooking up with a guy, some general male arousal triggers might really be able to turn them on. Like, really turn them on, which means you’re gonna wanna try them, like, yesterday.

First thing’s first, though: It’s important to remember that “man” doesn’t necessarily = penis. While there are some general penis-related male arousal triggers, there are even spots more that can be found on all body types. This is because many erogenous zones—areas on the body your brain deems pleasurable to the touch—are universal. And these universal hotspots are kind of like arousal shortcuts, dating coach and author of Dating Sucks But You Don’t, Connell Barrett, says. If you find your partner’s e-zones, “You can take them from zero to Oh my god! in a matter of seconds,” he explains.

Granted, you could argue that any zone on someone’s body could be an arousal trigger if treated appropriately, but there is evidence that some specific areas are worth paying more attention to than others when it comes to pleasure. That’s because some of these spots are full of nerve-endings (like your ears), while others are hot because they’re so often easily overlooked (when was the last time you kissed the *front* of your partner’s neck?).

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And even though many people have similar erogenous zones and arousal triggers, Barrett notes that everyone is different, so what makes your toes curl might not do the job for your partner, and vice versa. “That’s what makes discovering male arousal triggers so much fun,” he explains. “It’s like unearthing a tactile treasure that your partner might not have even known about, which just makes it even hotter.”

To help you on your pleasure quest, we’ve rounded up 40 expert-backed areas to pay attention to when trying to find your S.O.’s secret feel-good spots. Barrett suggests just exploring the different areas stress-free, because no matter what, if your partner has a hottie like you touching them, they’re gonna be having a good time. But if you feel stuck, try the tips we’ve included for each male arousal trigger that’ll help you truly go above and beyond.

1. The Foreskin

Some people are circumcised (which is when the foreskin of the penis is cut off) and some people aren’t, and neither is better than the other. But for those who are uncircumcised, there’s a benefit: The foreskin amounts to around 15 square inches of bonus e-zone. “The foreskin is packed with nerve endings, and stimulating the thin skin in this area lends a highly pleasurable experience,” says Mia Sabat, a sex therapist at Emjoy. There’s also sensitivity on both the outside and inside surfaces of the foreskin.

Try this: Use a hand to move the foreskin up and down over the head of the penis itself, suggests Sabat. During oral, you can also focus on it by using a combo of your hand, tongue, and lips. Because of the sensitivity on both the outside and inside of the foreskin, a rolling motion on the foreskin during sex can also be quite pleasurable.

2. Lower Stomach

      Another nerve-filled area is the lower stomach, says Sabat, which becomes more and more concentrated closer to the genital area. Give the area right below their belly button but above their pubic bone or genitals some extra love to show them your affection and attention.

      Try this: Teasing and stimulating this area can feel v pleasurable through kissing, gentle biting, and temperature play, says Sabat. You can even experiment with some light pressure play, “but be warned: it’s best to try [pressure play] with an empty bladder,” Sabat adds.

      3. Inner Arms

          The thin, soft skin of the inner arms makes this area ultra-sensitive, according to Sabat. Think about it—how often do you really give attention to your inner arms?

          Try this: While most of these erogenous zones can be stimulated through kissing or your tongue, the light, controlled movement of your fingers is especially great for inner arms. Stroke the skin from just inside their inner shoulder and move gently down to the inner elbow, says Sabat. If you and your partner are both into BDSM and have spoken about trying it out, pulling this move when your partner has their arms tied up (either in a fixed T-shape or just with their wrists above their head), can be really sexy too, Sabat adds.

          4. Inner Wrist

              Moving down the arm, stimulating the sensitive, thin skin of the inner wrist can also be incredibly pleasurable for your partner. Not only that, Sabat adds, but feeling your partner’s heart rate increase as you get closer to their pulse point can be both a turn-on and extremely empowering.

              Try this: The inner wrist is a great erogenous zone you can stimulate while both of you are in public (in a non-gross) way. Simply stroking or kissing your partner’s inner wrist is a great way to show that you’re feeling sensual, Sabat says, and it’s just a pretty sweet move overall.

              5. Palm of Their Hands and Fingertips

                  Fun fact: Hands are actually some of the most sensitive and responsive areas of the body, says Sabat. This area is full of nerve-endings—a fact you probably already know if you’ve ever been bodied by a teensy paper-cut that somehow feels like someone cut your whole finger off.

                  Try this: “Take your partner’s palm in your hand and gently trace along the edges and lines of their palm with your fingertips,” says Sabat. Then, turn it up by “kissing their palms and fingertips, or gently taking one finger into your mouth to suck, swirling your tongue around their finger and moving your lips along its length.”

                  6. Behind the Knee

                      Not only is the skin thin and sensitive, but it’s also nerve-packed, says Sabat. Plus it gets points for being highly overlooked because truly, have you ever considered paying extra attention to the under-knee area? I know I haven’t.

                      Try this: The area behind the knee can be a super versatile erogenous zone as it can be teased without being gross in public, but also focused on during sex when, y’know, you’re back in private. Sabat says to try gently running your fingers over the area, or engaging with this bodily real estate during penetrative sex with touching, stroking, or dialing the intensity up a bit by applying pressure.

                      7. Anus

                      While you might’ve heard about the prostate being wowza-levels of pleasurable for those with penises, even without the prostate, backdoor play can still be something pleasurable you engage in with your partner. There are tons of nerve endings in the anal region, says Sabat, and once you’ve discussed and okay-ed anal play, it can be a really hot experience for you both. Remember, as with all things butt play, the importance of lube, patience, and ongoing consent cannot be stressed enough. The anus doesn’t self-lubricate like a vagina, so lots of lube is a must for this situation.

                      Try this: For those who want to explore anal play but aren’t sure if they want to give or receive anal penetration quite yet, don’t worry, you can absolutely stimulate the anus without penetration. Sabat recommends starting with massaging your partner’s buttocks. “Stroke the entire area and place your hands on the folds where the legs and buttocks meet, then slide your fingers across the fold from the inner thigh to the outer area, before starting to caress the outside of the anus,” she suggests.

                      After that, if you and your partner have spoken about anal penetration as something you both want to do, then that’s when you can start thinking about moving towards penetration with either your (well-lubed!) finger or toy.

                      8. Outer Thighs

                      “Some of the best erogenous zones are places we can innocently caress in everyday life, and the thighs are an excellent example,” says Sabat. Thighs are similar to the groin or inner thigh, but much less intimate, so you can interact with the area in public without a hitch.

                      Try this: Sabat recommends lightly touching or squeezing and gently massaging the area while sitting next to your partner. Specifically, zone in on the space between their knee and halfway up the thigh, Sabat says, as this teasing movement will make them want more. When you are in private, you can, of course, cover this area with gentle licks, kisses, and even small bites, if that’s something you’re both into.

                      9. Inner Thighs

                      Relationship therapist Eboni Harris says that since the inner thigh is so close to the penis, “even without the sensation of touch, just being in that area is sure to get your partner anticipating what’s next.”

                      Try this: Harris suggests taking your time to kiss and lick your partner’s inner thigh before going to touch their penis when performing oral. Tease and experiment with your lips, going from light fluttering kisses to harder sucking.

                      10. Groin

                          “Similar to the inner thighs, this region is so close to the genitals that having your partner tease this area can be equally frustrating and satisfying,” explains Sabat. The groin, aka where your abdomen transitions into the lower body and legs, is packed with nerve endings, and it just gets bonus points for being adjacent to the genitals.

                          Try this: To really tease your partner, have them keep their underwear on while you run your fingers over the area slowly, before eventually moving to touch their skin, says Sabat. Once undressed, she suggests kissing and caressing the area, and especially doing so if you’re giving oral, as this can make things even more intimate.

                          11. Ears

                          Ears are hypersensitive to touch as there are tons of sensation receptors along the inside and outside of the ear, says sex and pleasure educator Luna Matatas.

                          Try this: Suck the top part of your partner’s ear and then run your tongue along the inside, says Matatas. The beauty of ear play is that when you’re that up close and personal, your hands are also free to roam the rest of their bod.

                          12. Ribs

                          “Anywhere on the body that has thinner skin is going to have more sensitivity to sensation and more possibility of blood flow during arousal,” Matatas explains. The ribs are one of these areas, and because they’re usually covered up by clothing, there’s a touch of taboo involved.

                          Try this: In case your S.O. is ticklish, test the area out first with a teasing touch. Matatas recommends slowly dragging your hands and fingers down the sides of their body or leaving a little breadcrumb trail of kisses or light nibbles on their ribs.

                          13. Armpits

                          Another sensitive spot that can also be ticklish, armpits are often overlooked but can still be super pleasurable for people. While the pits don’t have any special nerve endings, they can still be quite intimate because of their under-serviced status as an erogenous zone, says Matatas.

                          Try this: Go for some sucking, licking, or light, teasing touching says Matatas. Armpits can also be mutually beneficial spots to pay attention to during sex since they secrete scent—great for feeling primal when you’re getting hot and heavy.

                          14. Fingers

                          What better place to start than the receptor points for experiencing touch? Just because you use them and they’re well, there, in every sex act doesn’t mean they can’t benefit from having the spotlight turned onto them as well.

                          Try this: Matatas suggests massaging their fingers (because how great is that massage part during a manicure, right?), kissing your partner’s finger pads gently, dragging your teeth along the side of them lightly, or putting them in your mouth and dragging them out slowly. All the better if you turn up the eye contact during the last part.

                          15. Their Beard

                          If your partner has facial hair, you can really work it to your advantage. Think about how sexy it feels when someone runs their fingers through your hair, says Kate W., co-founder of Pleasure Better. “For some reason,” she adds, “We never think about someone’s beard being the same way.” Shame, isn’t it?

                          Try this: Kate says to start at the base of your partner’s neck and trace your fingers up slowly through their beard, eventually running over their scalp. This trick feels so good that it won’t be long before their fingers are eventually entangled in your hair as well.

                          16. The Base of the Shaft

                          The penis actually extends further into the body than you might see at first glance, says Matatas, which means it’s a great place to play with pressure and increase blood flow.

                          Try this: Using your fingers, find the base of the penis and explore with pressure. “At the base of the penis, explore putting pressure around the shaft with your index finger and thumb in an ‘ok’ symbol, pushing back towards the body,” says Matatas. While your fingers are getting to work, use your other free hand or mouth to stimulate the head of your partner’s penis.

                          17. The Back of Their Neck

                          This is a hot spot because of the many nerve endings there, explains sex expert Antonia Hall. It’ll also give you some “under-utilized hot spot” points because it’s often overlooked when it comes to getting it on.

                          Try this: Hall recommends licking a trail just below your partner’s hairline, down their neck, and along the sides. You can also start with slow, sensual kisses, eventually easing your tongue to turn up any sensitivity.

                          18. Their Hair

                          You know how good it feels when someone plays with your hair? The same thing goes for guys, y’all. “Men have nerve endings on their scalp that are attached to the rest of their body, and when their hair is gently pulled when they are kissed or held, it sends stimulation to the rest of their body,” says sex and relationships therapist Tammy Nelson, PhD.

                          Try this: While kissing, try running the tips of your fingers through your S.O.’s hair, gently over their scalp, then a bit harder with a tug. “If they react with small sounds and pleasure moans, pull harder, then let go before they want you to,” says Nelson. This playful tease will drive them legitimately wild.

                          19. Their Toes

                          Shrimpin’ anyone? Yes, this is what it’s called when you suck on your partner’s toes (or they suck on yours). “This is so erotic because feet are a nonconventional hotbed of sensation just waiting for some stimulation,” says sexologist Megan Stubbs.

                          Try this: During sexy foreplay, move your kisses teasingly down their body until you’re all the way down at their feet. Stubbs suggests sucking on your partner’s toes or even gently biting each little piggie. Just maybe have ’em take a shower before?

                          20. Between Their Toes

                          You’ve already got their toes in your mouth, so while you’re there, Barrett says to pay extra attention to the area between the toes. “The skin between our toes is quite sensitive and thin,” he explains, making this spot an underrated erogenous zone to zero in on.

                          Try this: “Use your pinkie—not a thumb or index finger—to caress the area between the toes,” Barrett suggests. “Odds are, your partner’s never once been touched there, and they’ll be both aroused and surprised when you hit this overlooked spot.” Try switching up the pressure—like with your fingernail—to see what sends your S.O. over the edge.

                          21. The Bottom of Their Feet

                          The bottoms of the feet tend to get the most attention during foot rubs and pedicures, and for good reason. This area is covered in pressure points and arousal zones, explains Barrett, which makes the arches a super popular place people like to be touched, no matter their gender or sexual preferences.

                          Try this: Okay, so while this is a super sexy place to touch, it also has major tickle potential, Barrett notes, so you’ll want to avoid fast movements that flicker along the skin. “You want them moaning, not giggling. So instead, use a soft, slow, steady stroke with the tips of your fingers,” Barrett suggests. Try varying up the pressure to really get the blood flowing.

                          22. The Feet in General

                          ICYMI, the feet are kind of major when it comes to erogenous zones. Besides just feeling good, there’s a reason why reflexology massages are so popular: “There are so many nerve endings in the feet,” says sex therapist Rhoda Lipscomb, PhD—which makes for a great area to stimulate.

                          Try this: Don’t worry, you don’t have to be a foot fetishist to ace this. “Start by using some massage oil and massaging your partner’s feet,” says Lipscomb. Pay attention to all the areas we mentioned (toe, between the toes, the arch, the ankle dip), as well as the heel pad and the outer edge of the foot for all-over euphoria. And if you want to add some tongue and kisses to the mix, do it—just don’t forget to switch positions and make it your turn afterward.

                          23. The Dip Under Their Ankle

                          Yes, the spot that always gets fucked up when you wear new shoes! Between your person’s heel and ankle is a fingertip-size pressure point that holds “enormous passion potential,” says Laura Norman, author of Feet First. “This spot is linked to the sex organs” and “pressing it releases energy, producing feelings of pleasure,” she explains.

                          Try this: While in reverse cowgirl, grab your partner’s feet and pulse each pressure point in rhythm with your thrusts. Try this right before your S.O.’s about to climax to really blow their mind.

                          24. The Prostate

                          Introducing: The most underrated part of a penis-haver’s body. “The prostate gland is a huge erogenous zone,” says Lipscomb. “If properly stimulated, this can bring intense pleasure to your partner.” Think of this as your penis-having partner’s clitoris—it’s their most sensitive spot.

                          Try this: Run a lubricated finger around your partner’s anus to begin. This stimulation by itself may be enough, but if they’re down for more (and once the muscles have had a chance to relax), insert your index finger about two inches inside—where you should be able to feel the prostate. “Bend your finger up toward their abdomen and stroke it,” says Lipscomb.

                          25. Their Imagination

                          Okay, so maybe this isn’t a tangible thing you can touch, but trust: You can absolutely stimulate your partner’s mind, and it’s sexy as hell. “Let them have some time to consider your touch before your fingers arrive on their skin,” says Nelson. The ultimate tease.

                          Try this: “Whisper in their ear softly and tell them all the things you are going to do without touching a hair on their body,” says Nelson. No idea WTF to say? Just pretend like you’re sexting and say those things IRL.

                          26. Their Butt Cheek

                          Ah, the “sweet spot” of the bod. “Your partner’s going to be extra sensitive here,” says Good Vibrations staff sexologist Carol Queen, PhD. “Striking their butt cheek, even lightly, tends to stimulate the whole area.” Think of it like a slow vibration flowing through your S.O.’s insides.

                          Try this: If your partner is open to a little spank-y play, this is great to do while they’re on top of you in any variation of missionary. Squeeze their booty when they’re hitting just the right spot, or give ’em a quick spank if you’re both into it. “Don’t be afraid to grab or stroke there,” says Queen.

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                          27. The Philtrum

                          Sexologist Jess O’Reilly, PhD, explains that the philtrum—aka the small groove above your lips— has long been considered an erogenous zone. In fact, she explains, the word itself, “philtrum,” translates from the Latin word for “love potion.”

                          Try this: To stimulate your partner’s philtrum, O’Reilly suggests planting a very soft kiss on this area right before running your tongue down the groove to meet their upper lip.

                          28. The Raphe

                          O’Reilly explains that the raphe is the dividing line that runs across the middle of a penis-haver’s genitalia. This line goes from the anus to the tip of the penis, down over the perineum, scrotum, and shaft.

                          Try this: O’Reilly suggests using your tongue to trace over the line. To take things a step further, she suggests incorporating a lubed-up bullet vibrator to trace along the line as well while you breathe, lick, and suck in conjunction with the vibrator.

                          29. Bottom Lips

                          Harris says lips in general are one of the most sensitive parts of the body. Take your time while kissing—there’s a reason nibbling and variation in pressure can drive you over the edge when done correctly.

                          Try this: Harris suggests nibbling their bottom lip and possibly even going for a harder bite (if they seem receptive to it). “The sensations of going from a tender kiss to some teeth will surprise your partner and excite their brain.”

                          30. Those V-Lines

                          Besides being hot and fun for you to look at, the V-zone is a hotbed of pleasure for your partner, clinical sexologist and psychotherapist Kristie Overstreet, PhD explains. Not only is it a turn-on that your partner gets front-row tickets to watch you stimulate them, but it’s an easy pit stop to make on the way to bone-town.

                          Try this: Have your partner lay on their back while you get on top, straddle style. Starting from their belly button, use your fingers and nails to trace a line down from their happy trail stopping before you hit their groin. Then retrace your steps, but use your tongue to trace a V shape from their hips to right above their penis. Repeat as desired and draw it out to really tease them.

                          31. The Outside of Their Lower Lip

                          You know that spot between your lower lip and your chin where you usually break out? Yeah, the one that one hair always sprouts out of? That’s an erogenous zone! Certified sex educator Lou Paget, author of The Big O, says this tiny, delicate curve is actually packed with extra sensitive nerve receptors.

                          Try this: Suck your partner’s lower lip into your mouth the next time you’re making out and use the tip of your tongue to stroke this under-lip area. “That motion stimulates the whole erogenous zone in a teasing way, which will put your partner on the erotic edge,” says Paget. “And by keeping their lower lip inside yours, you magnify the sensation. It’ll feel as if electric currents are shooting from their mouth straight to their member.”

                          32. The Front of Their Neck

                          I bet you’ve never thought about your partner’s Adam’s apple as an erogenous zone, huh? In reality, the sexy area isn’t one to skip when stimulating the body, especially because the attraction to throat fruit stems from how the thyroid (just below the Adam’s apple) is “closely linked to the sex organs, according to ancient Chinese medicine,” says reflexologist Mantak Chia, author of Sexual Reflexology.

                          Try this: Have your partner lie on their back and lightly suck their Adam’s apple. Keep your tongue flat and light, and don’t apply too much pressure. Simply massage the area with wide circular motions to ensure you’re hitting that T-spot of the thyroid.

                          33. Their Nipples

                          While all nipples are fundamentally the same, men might experience more nipple sensitivity since they aren’t usually as used to having them touched. “For a lot of men, their nipples are uncharted territory—an erogenous zone they haven’t experimented with,” explains clinical sexologist Patti Britton, PhD, author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Sensual Massage.

                          Try this: Britton suggests having your partner lie back and slowly lick from their areola inward (like an ice-cream cone), but never actually touch your tongue to their nip. Get closer and closer until you flick their nipple with your tongue and then gently bite it. If you wanna be really extra, you can suck on an ice cube beforehand for more sensation.

                          34. The Perineum

                          The perineum—which is the patch of skin located between a penis-haver’s testicles and anus—is right above the prostate gland. And ICYMI, this whole area has “major orgasmic power.” In fact, Tracey Cox, author of Supersex, says a few soft strokes here will drive your partner to the brink.

                          Try this: Press your knuckles gently into this spot and start massaging. Right as your partner’s about to orgasm, push your knuckles a little deeper to extend the fireworks.

                          35. The Shaft

                          This sex organ is, naturally, a huge part of sex for penis-havers. And while you may have mastered the typical handy and blow job, try to spice things up with something totally uncharted like a reverse finger job.

                          Try this: Make two tight rings around your partner’s penis with your thumb and index finger (like you’re doing the okay hand symbol 👌), stacking them one on top of the other in the middle of the shaft. Twist the rings in opposite directions moving from the middle to the top with one hand, and the middle to the base of the shaft with the other hand, both at the same time. It’s kinda like patting your head and rubbing your belly at the same time, but if you can master the “torrid twist,” as Cox calls it, your partner will def thank you. Remember to use lube though!

                          36. The Head of the Penis

                          As the most sensitive part of the penis, the head can be a fickle area to master. Barbara Keesling, PhD, author of The Good Girl’s Guide to Bad Girl Sex, says it can be tricky to get the right level of pressure to send your partner soaring into ecstasy without recoiling in sensory overload.

                          Try this: Give your S.O. a lipstick blow job—aka where you brush your closed but relaxed lips against the head of their penis like you’re applying lipstick. Hold their shaft with your fingers, but not in a fist (avoid holding their penis like a microphone, but do approach it with the same blind confidence of a mediocre stand-up act). Keesling suggests varying the sensations by opening your mouth a bit and rubbing the penis head between them.

                          37. The Seam of Their Testicles

                          You know how socks always have a seam in them? Well, your partner’s penis has one that separates their testicles that keeps them from becoming one big testilump. Cox says it’s a nerve-rich pleasure trail that runs top to bottom along the scrotum and is vastly under-appreciated.

                          Try this: Cradle your partner’s balls in one hand while gently pressing the first two fingertips of your other hand into the top of the crease (close to where the testicles connect to the base of his penis). Then trace downward with your fingers until you reach the bottom of the scrotum. Don’t forget to be gentle!

                          38. Their Frenulum

                          The F-spot is the little nubbin of flesh underneath the crown of the penis that connects the head to the shaft. It’s often overlooked because it’s part of the undercarriage, but Britton says there’s actually a bundle of nerves at this point that when touched “set off an amazing chain reaction of rapture.”

                          Try this: The next time you’re going down on your partner, hold their penis steady with one hand while really giving their crown your all. Each time you circle your tongue around to the frenulum, flick it a few times with your tongue stiffened, and then relax and go back to licking the crown.

                          39. Their Lower Back

                          If you’re looking for a way to turn your partner way TF on without even taking their pants off, look no further. As Overstreet explains, the pudendal nerve that stimulates all the areas of the groin is located here, at the bottom of the spinal cord.

                          Try this: Have your partner lay on their stomach with their shirt off and their arms by their side. Hot tip: Keep their pants on, but pull them down a few inches for a tantalizing never-nude experience. Lightly run your fingers down across their lower back, stopping before you hit butt cheek.

                          40. Their Earlobes

                          We already talked about the ears, but this sensitive lil pocket of skin deserves its own section because it’s *that* erotic. Just think about how jumpy you get when someone whispers in your ear! Now take that sensation to the next level by incorporating earlobe nibbles and below-the-belt multitasking.

                          Try this: Overstreet suggests kissing your partner across their shoulder, up their neck, and stopping right before you hit their ear. Do this to both sides, because asymmetry is for the lazy. When they get real squirmy, start kissing their earlobes, then play around with gentle nibbles, tongue, etc. If you want to start talking dirty, now’s the time. But be warned: Only use this move if you want a quickie because very few folks can last long in bed when earlobes are incorporated.

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              How to Manifest Love – A Step-by-Step Guide to Manifesting Love

              What ever your inner thoughts are about New Age-y spirituality, the Law of Attraction argues that you can truly feel anything into existence if you want it poorly enough—that you can manifest what ever you place your thoughts and electricity to. Maybe you’ve read The Magic formula, Rhonda Byrne’s best-marketing reserve about the regulation of attraction, or you have occur throughout video clips of spiritual influencers training you just how to manifest your aspiration task, condominium, or companion on your TikTok For You web site. (Raises hand.) So even if you are not totally offered on the electrical power of manifestation, you can’t argue that it is not obtaining ~a moment~.

              “Manifestation is the observe of doing the job with the universe to draw out a preferred end result by means of a set intention,” claims psychic diviner and certified Reiki practitioner Amber Finney. “You’re operating with the electricity of your mind, the power of your actions, and the energy of connecting to spirit to change a considered into a tangible truth.” Probably for you, manifesting seems like having a seem you imagined and turning it into a song you participate in in your thoughts, like a mantra. Or it’s possible it’s as uncomplicated as envisioning what your dream lifetime appears like, then doing the job to convert it into a actuality, claims attitude and manifestation mentor Samantha Chung.

              You can manifest anything from a position give to a bowl of spaghetti bolognese (yum), but nowadays, we’re heading to converse about manifesting romantic really like in your existence. We spoke to religious authorities for phase-by-action recommendations on what to do, how extensive it normally takes, and how to know if your manifestation is working.

              So how do you manifest enjoy?

              There are a number of distinctive means to manifest adore into your everyday living, but a person common method is as a result of a adore manifestation ritual. These rituals can be executed anytime and where ever, but in accordance to astrologer and licensed Reiki practitioner Jasmin Alejandrez-Prasad, the most effective situations to accomplish them are on Fridays (“as Fridays are ruled by Venus, the earth of like, romance and relationships”) at night time time (“because the moon generates safety, security, and harmony in appreciate relationships”). Here’s what to do:

              1.Write a letter of intention

              Initial, get apparent on what it is you want from your best husband or wife. Who is this man or woman? What attributes do they have? You’re then heading to define these needs in a letter—or petition—of intention. Be as distinct as doable, down to actual physical attractiveness and finances, states Finney. (You can even include the identify of a particular man or woman if you’d like.) And really don’t feel guilty for asking for what you want.

              “When somebody asks you to get specific, there might be some guilt that arises due to the fact it can truly feel shallow to inquire for those people items, but you’re just professing what you want,” claims Finney. “Besides, the universe could be bringing that link to you, but if it is not packaged the way that you ended up very clear about, you could possibly pass up out on your manifestation.”

              Maintain your letter distinct and concise, and maybe even finish it with a phrase along the traces of, “Manifesting results of my best fantastic and the optimum very good of all included,” suggests Alejandrez-Prasad.

              2. Visualize it

              After you have published your letter of intention, you are heading to want to visualize it. “Visualize yourself carrying out the factors you would get pleasure from or take pleasure in in a connection with a soulmate or that particular particular person of interest,” says Alejandrez-Prasad. “Visualize their name, their image and send out them good intentions—send out some therapeutic strength of love to them, [mentally] encouraging them that there is no tension and that you’re not hurrying the process since it has already been reached spiritually.”

              3. Deliver your information into the universe

              When you are accomplished visualizing, mail your message out into the universe. Develop an altar space for your letter and light-weight a pink candle, “as pink is utilized for self love, like, and Venus-dependent rituals in candle get the job done,” claims Alejandrez-Prasad. “Get a basic, unscented candle for this. Set your letter close to or beneath the candle, but do not burn off the paper. Gentle this candle daily right until it fully burns and maintain your letter there until eventually your person or romance manifests.” Prior to positioning your letter at the altar, fold it 3 occasions toward you, as which is how you get in touch with the electricity in, states Finney.

              You can also integrate spell perform, another software employed in manifestation, by doing work with diverse features in character that assistance phone in attractiveness and enjoy, explains Finney. You can anoint your candle with herbs that embody these energies by sprinkling them into the melted wax, like rose, cinnamon, catnip, forest root, and orange. You can consume tea, like hibiscus or passion flower, or eat a spoonful of honey. “Honey is made use of to attract and sweeten up rituals—this will assistance you invoke the vitality of attraction, desire and sensuality,” explains Alejandrez-Prasad.

              Performing with crystals like Rose Quartz (“a love stone that opens your coronary heart and can make you extra receptive to love”), Malachite (“also made use of for heart opening, as well as cultivating healthful relationships”), and Lepidolite (“for individuals that have trauma and will need healing it can also support with stress all-around manifesting”), can also support improve your manifestation, explains Finney.

              4. Embody your checklist

              The closing (and probably hardest) stage is to embody your checklist of desires. “Everything you want from this human being, give it to by yourself,” says Chung. “This is how we can turn out to be a magnet to bring in someone with the attributes we wish.”

              You know how individuals say the most crucial connection you can at any time have is the a person you have with by yourself? Effectively, this is that quite thought in action. Primarily, after you can give on your own the matters you desire a lover could give you, you’ll draw in the adore you ought to have.

              “When we vibrate at the frequency of love, we grow to be extremely desirable to other individuals. The most attractive and valuable thing you can do in order to manifest enjoy is genuinely just walk all over and really feel like you are by now in this great relationship—you presently have the like that you’re wanting—and that’s a promise that it will come jogging to you,” claims Chung.

              How extended does it acquire to manifest enjoy?

              I know it’s frustrating, but there’s really no set timeline on when you’ll get who or what you are manifesting.

              “When we’re doing work with the universe and other spiritual realms, time does not exist. So when I’m undertaking my readings, I constantly preface that you could possibly be contacting on one thing that you may perhaps not see for a couple years,” says Finney. “When it arrives to manifestation, it’s definitely just divine timing.” Alejandrez-Prasad adds that the best romance you are manifesting, “can occur incredibly rapid or not at all, but it is definitely feasible.”

              Furthermore, Chung says you have to be eager to dissolve any restricting beliefs so that you can aid the reality of your manifestation. “That person can stroll into your everyday living tomorrow, but it will not make any difference except if you consider your self deserving ample to assist that reality.”

              What are some indicators your like manifestation is coming through?

              Our professionals mentioned you are going to know that your aspiration lover is on their way or is currently right here because you are going to start off to detect synchronicities (significant coincidences) in your day to day lifetime, like…

              1. You are regularly viewing their birthday, title or some thing precisely connected to them in the globe about you. “This confirms that the electrical power is set in motion and coming into the Earthly realm,” states Alejandrez-Prasad.
              2. You truly feel an instant attraction to someone you have just met.
              3. You come to feel a gravitational pull toward an individual. “You just cannot cease wondering about them, perhaps you are even dreaming about them or owning déjà vu,” says Finney.
              4. You are observing sure angel numbers. For case in point, 222 is normally noticed as a concept of love—a indication to type a deep bond or perform to make something very last.
              5. It’s just a sensation. “You might start to feel like a thing is transforming, in particular for most intuitives like me, I perception factors are coming prior to they even happen,” states Finney.
                1. At the close of the working day, Chung claims that if you are thinking, Is this a indication? about a thing that feels different, it most very likely is.

                  And how do you know you manifested what you wanted?

                  And more importantly, how do you know if it is suitable for you?

                  When you sense like “you no for a longer period have to compromise who you are,” suggests Chung. “There’s no longer any attempting to justify, edit, or make a disclaimer about your self to the other person—you’re ready to be your total, authentic self in this actuality.”

                  If the man or woman you have manifested is appropriate for you, you will not have to question the partnership or 2nd-guess by yourself. You will not need to have to question you, Is this human being appropriate for me? any more simply because intuitively you’ll now know that the respond to is sure.

                  In the end, manifestation is a potent tool that can help you entice the issues you want, but try to remember: It’s up to you to seek them out, and portion of manifestation is believing that you should have very good things—that you are worthy of love and contentment in your daily life. Because PSA: You fully do. The moment you are ready to embody what you are trying to attract—whether that’s self adore when you want really like from some others, self esteem when you want to do effectively at get the job done, or wholesome patterns when you want to really feel good—you’ll obtain what you’re wanting for.

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                    100 Questions to Get to Know Someone

                    There’s nothing quite as exciting as dating someone new. From the thrilling firsts—like romantic trips away and using cute nicknames—to the everyday moments like cuddling on the couch and goodnight texts, the feel-good vibes are typically out in full force during the initial stages of any situationship. But if you ever plan to get past the honeymoon stage, you need to take some time to get to know each other on a deeper, more intimate level. While sure, exploring each other sexually is great, exploring each other emotionally is equally important. And asking questions to get to know someone is a great way to build that bond and create what could become a lasting connection.

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                    The key here is to ask questions that reveal the tiny little things that make your partner them. You don’t need to have another convo about the forecast or whatever you watched on TV last night. Instead, hit on topics that dig a lil deeper, promote stimulating discussions, and help you understand each other a bit better.

                    Quick disclaimer: You do have to enter into serious, personal territory to really connect, but not all the questions have to unpack past trauma and lead to tears. They should, however, all be engaging and require more than a “yes” or “no” response. The goal is simple: Get them talking.

                    If you’re feeling stumped, we’ve consulted with dating and relationship experts on the best questions to ask when you really want to get to know someone. Not only do these work for romantic relationships, but they’re great to talk about with your friends, parents, strangers on a plane—you name it! Whatever the situation, here are the top 100 Qs to ask so you’ll never have to talk about the weather again!

                    1. What’s one question you wish more people asked you?

                    This simple Q tells you what they enjoy talking about, what may be their passion, and as a bonus, “this gives the individual a very open-ended approach to share things that may be hard to prompt,” says licensed psychologist Carly Claney, PhD.

                    2. What makes you feel accomplished?

                    We all measure accomplishments differently, and you typically value the things that make you feel accomplished. So whether it’s receiving praise at work, protesting for a good cause, or reaching a fitness milestone, this is a good indication of what makes them feel fulfilled and successful.

                    3. Did you have a childhood best friend growing up?

                    Asking about someone’s early years can feel like a lot, so instead, ask about a (likely) positive source of comfort from their younger days. Childhood BFFs can majorly shape us as people, so this might cue you into why they went into their specific line of work or why they love watching movies on Saturday mornings. Besides, it’s always sweet to see someone get that far-off, nostalgic look in their eyes when talking about a friend.

                    4. What’s your strangest talent?

                        It’s usually easier (not to mention more fun) for people to talk about their talents when it’s a little less, “I’m really good at public speaking,” and a little more, “I can balance stuff on my head.” Not only will you likely get a show (I mean come on—you’re a good balancer? Show me now!), but throwing this Q into the mix after a few heavier questions will keep things balanced.

                        5. Do you have any spiritual beliefs?

                        Some people might connect over religion right off the bat, but others might have spiritual beliefs that aren’t as out in the open. Sure, this can give you insight into whether you’ll be expected at midnight mass should you end up together, but it can also shine some light onto the guiding force behind many of their actions and morals.

                        6. Do you believe in life after death?

                        This might be an obvious answer based on the above question’s answer, but plenty of people have beliefs outside of religion. This can be extremely insightful and personal, so make sure to actively listen to their answer and don’t try to talk them out of their beliefs. If you want a fun follow-up, ask them what their version of heaven would look like. It’s puppies, loved ones, and lots of pizza rolls behind those pearly gates for me!

                        7. What’s your go-to karaoke song?

                        Some people love public singing and others would rather sit on the sidelines, so sure, you’ll get that answer v quickly. But either way, try to phrase this as a “you haaaaaave to sing” kind of thing. What song do they know every word to, and why is that song such a big deal to them? If things are going well, you can absolutely request a performance then and there for a playful vibe change. Just be ready to mic up as well for a spontaneous rendition of “Toxic.”

                        8. What’s the last dream you remember?

                        …Or what’s the last dream they remember that they’re comfortable sharing? Dreams can get weird, y’all, but oftentimes they cue you into what your subconscious is trying to work through. Make a non-judgment rule so you can discuss your dreams freely without fighting over the fact that one of you had a sex dream about Jim Carrey’s Ace Ventura.

                        9. What’s the *best* dream you remember?

                            The definition of a “good dream” really varies depending on the person, their mood, and their values, so while this question seems a little silly, it’s actually pretty deep. Whether their favorite dream was when they got to spend time with their grandmother who had passed away years before or got to live in a house made of cheese, you’ll get some good intel.

                            10. Do you have a life motto?

                            If someone has a mantra, that’s one of the greatest indicators of how they *want* to live their life, so pay attention to what they say and see how it aligns with your own goals. Are they a “live fast, die young” or a “slow and steady wins the race” type? There’s a biiiiig difference in how those two people will likely want to spend their future.

                            11. What’s your favorite snack food?

                            This is one of the questions that separate the health nuts from the junk queens. Clashing over diet and food preferences can make picking a place to eat or stocking the fridge a major headache down the line (but don’t worry—it’s not a make-or-break. Relationships are all about compromise after all). On the flip side, however, you may learn about a yummy new treat or discover you both have a weakness for Cool Ranch Doritos.

                            12. Cats or dogs?

                            Cat and dog people can coexist, but for many of us, a future without a furry friend isn’t a future at all. That’s why learning where your S.O. stands on the matter is pretty major. P.S. This question can likely lead to stories of past pets, so get the tissues out and be prepared to feel your heart melt.

                            13. Did you have pets growing up?

                            If you didn’t get the details about their history with pets in the above question, ask away! Sure, you’ll get more insight about their stance on wet noses and litter boxes, but more importantly, asking someone about pets growing up is an easy way to segue into chatting about their childhood.

                            14. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

                            Learning whether your partner feels energized around people or when solo chilling is major since neither of you wants to be depleted when making plans. Also! It’s important to remember being extroverted isn’t the same thing as being outgoing, so your partner might be chatty, but they might still think of themselves as introverted because they need plenty of alone time to recharge.

                            15. What’s the next big purchase you want to make?

                            Finances are one of the biggest things couples fight about, so having a similar viewpoint surrounding how to spend (and save) money is vital to most relationships. If your partner has been saving up for a new laptop to replace their 7-year-old model: Great! If they want to buy a new gadget because they’re already bored of the one they got a few weeks ago? Not necessarily as great.

                            16. What’s the best dish you can cook?

                                This is more telling than asking someone if they *can*, and it’ll give you insight as to how good of a chef they really are. Let’s face it: Mastering cereal is different from mastering Julia Child’s boeuf bourguignon. Regardless of their culinary prowess, cooking is an act of passion and a way to express love for many people, so if they ever offer to whip something up for you, there’s likely more meaning to the meal than just sustenance.

                                17. What’s your dream car?

                                First, this will let you know whether or not you’re dealing with someone who loves the Fast and Furious franchise *shudders*. But even more importantly, it shows you how they place value on themselves and the world around them. Do they want a flashy sports car for confidence? Are they aching to go electric for the environment? Or do they just want something that’ll get them from point A to point B?

                                18. Do you want to stay in your current work role for a while?

                                Asking someone about their work is sticky because hi, it’s work. So instead of something abstract like if they like their job, asking if they plan to stay in their role for a while is easier to answer. Plus, if you’re looking for a partner who’s at a consistent place in their life, this will give you insight as to whether a major life change is on the horizon, career-wise.

                                19. What’s your favorite conspiracy theory?

                                From the happenings at Area 51 to the moon landing, everyone’s got a conspiracy they can’t wait to talk about. Sure, this might give you an idea about whether or not you’ll be watching unexplained mystery documentaries for the rest of your life, but more importantly, it’s a purely fun question that keeps things from feeling too interview-y.

                                20. Describe yourself in three words.

                                The ~tell me about yourself~ question is basically a conversation ender, but by limiting your personal descriptions to just three words, you don’t have to feel like you’re giving an elevator pitch. And if they’re really struggling to come up with something, ask them to describe their “today self” in three words instead.

                                21. What’s the best way to wake up in the morning?

                                Whether they’re a 5 a.m.-er who runs or a 9 a.m.-er who snoozes 10 times, morning routines are sacred for many. Now’s the time to figure out if your ideal mornings align or clash. And if they don’t have a special way to start the day, maybe you can help them come up with one? *wiggles eyebrows suggestively*

                                22. Oh, no! There’s a spider in the house. What’s the move?

                                There’s a lot to be said about how someone interacts with small challenges and fears. Does the hero cape come on or does the fear take over? Also, if you find yourself in the company of someone who saves the spider and releases it outside (aww!), hang onto them tight since they clearly aren’t afraid of doing the right thing, even if it’s a tad uncomfy.

                                23. How do you feel about reality TV?

                                Reality TV can be kinda polarizing, and while some people love it (hi, it’s me), others aren’t as about it, so find out if your viewing preferences align. Also: This question can result in either a lively discussion about the merits of the genre or hours spent comparing your favorite Bachelor contestants, either of which is bound to be a fascinating convo.

                                24. What was the best trip you’ve ever been on?

                                There are a whole lotta ways you can vacation, so see if their idea of a chill break is the same as yours. Ideally, you’ll both find similar types of trips alluring, but even if not, pay attention to what it is they really liked about their best vacay ever. Was it the destination? The company? The food? This will reveal what they value in their time off.

                                25. Do you play board games?

                                Nope, not a super deep question, but definitely a favorite to ask. Board games are an epic—and screen-free!—way to connect, so finding someone who shares your affinity for ~Free Parking~ is pretty special. If they’re not a board gamer, maybe you can teach them a thing or two, and if they are into games, you can discuss the unlikely merits of having a sheep port in Settlers of Catan.

                                26. Where are you most likely to be at a party?

                                There’s nothing worst than going to a party and turning to find the person you arrived with is MIA. You don’t have to have the same social setting mentality, but knowing how each other functions and flourishes at parties is supes helpful. You’ll learn how they feel about social situations and for future reference, you’ll know that if you can’t find them, they’re likely playing flip cup or petting the host’s dog in the off-the-limits bedroom.

                                27. What’s your biggest pet peeve?

                                    Pet peeves can honestly wear down even the most level-headed person, so you might as well learn about each other’s simple frustrations as early as possible. From the toilet paper hanging wrong to hearing someone bite the fork when they chew, discovering those peeves—and then trying to avoid them for each other—is a simple way to show you care.

                                    28. If you could have dinner with one person (living or dead) who would it be?

                                    This is such a fun question because it almost always leads to insightful conversations. Some people choose to dine with a deceased relative or historical figure, while others pick inspirational creators or famous celebrities. Be sure to ask them *why* they selected their chosen dinner guest to better understand what they admire in others.

                                    29. What was the worst phase in your life?

                                    Maybe it was the time they got bangs, or perhaps it was the three years when they moved five different times. We all have ups and downs, but learning about your partner’s (or potential partner’s) “worst phase” can help you prepare for future obstacles and understand how different situations might trigger or affect them.

                                    30. What would you do if you won the lottery?

                                    From paying off student loans to setting their parents up with a house or simply blowing it all on trips and (v expensive) treats, there’s a whole lot you could do with a giant sum of money. While you shouldn’t take their answer *too* seriously (this is hypothetical, after all), this will likely shine a lil light on their values and nature of giving.

                                    31. If you were an animal, what animal would you be?

                                    This is a fun one because the person might base their animal on aesthetics, size, personality—anything here goes. Yes, it’s a silly Q, but it actually shows what the person sees as their defining features, whether inwardly or outwardly.

                                    32. What animal would you *want* to be?

                                    You know what animal they would be, but now find out what they’d like to be. Dreaming of being super strong or fast like a cheetah might indicate they want to propel themselves to greatness, while choosing an animal that’s more mild-mannered like a bird might indicate they just want to coast and enjoy the view.

                                    33. Would you prefer to go camping or chill at a resort?

                                    There are two types of people: those who love to camp and those who don’t. While everyone should probably sleep in a tent at least once for like, life experience, beyond that it’s a total preference thing. And being with someone who wants to sleep outside every weekend when you’d prefer to be posted up at a bougie hotel pool is good to know so you can plan your future vacation days accordingly.

                                    34. Did you have a favorite toy growing up?

                                    Even the toughest of folks likely had a cuddly lil bear growing up, and exchanging stories of your favorite toy is a sweet way to relax the vibe. If they’re struggling to pick a favorite stuffed animal or doll, ask instead about the best gift they ever received as a kid.

                                    35. What do most people overestimate or underestimate about you?

                                    You know what they say about assumptions, right? This question shows how your (potential) partner would like to be perceived and how they feel the world’s view of themselves aligns with their own.

                                    36. Have you ever lost someone close to you?

                                    It’s a hard conversation to have, but losing a friend or loved one can really shape someone as a person. Practice active listening and be mindful if they’re not ready to go into detail. When they do open up about their loss, make an effort to remember the details and be cognizant of dates/reminders that could spur on memories or feelings of loss.

                                    37. What’s a moment you’d love to be a fly on the wall for?

                                    Here’s how to figure out what types of moments totally wow your date. Some people might lean toward historically significant events, whereas others might like to see something from their family’s lineage, or watch an especially important moment in their life back. Be sure to ask follow-up questions to really understand what draws them to that scene.

                                    38. How did your family connect growing up?

                                    Since childhood traditions can easily blend into adulthood, how their family bonded growing up could be a major way they like to form bonds now. For some people, that might mean playing Monopoly. For others, maybe it’s eating dinner together every night, or watching TV together in the evenings. If that connection style still feels good, you now have a secret weapon for creating close feelings with ’em.

                                    39. What scrambles your brain every time you think about it?

                                    If it’s anything other than black holes, they’re probably lying (I mean—come on! What is happening there?!). No, tbh, chatting about those things that just turn your mind into scrambled eggs is actually a lot of fun. You get to learn a little more about what things they ponder over and how their brain works, and you get to take turns attempting to unravel each other’s greatest mysteries.

                                    40. Are you a better talker or listener?

                                    Sure, the question itself is interesting, but it’s how they answer it that really shows the answer. Do they launch into an eloquent and thought-provoking response or do they turn it back on you and listen closely? It’s like an inception question.

                                    41. What’s your “and then it got worse” story?

                                    Whether it was a travel trip from hell or a group project that cost them a passing grade, everyone’s got a story where things just keep going wrong. As they share, pay attention to their body language—are they tense? Laughing? This could indicate how they’d handle future situations where things go awry.

                                        42. What are you most determined to accomplish?

                                        This question is like a double question, because sure, you’ll learn about their largest and most current goal, but you’ll also get an idea of where their priorities lie. If they’re striving for that big promotion, work is major right now, but if they want to run a marathon or buy a house, health and stability might be what they’re working toward.

                                        43. What’s your favorite season and why?

                                        Are you going to be hosting BBQs in the summer or Halloween parties in the fall? No, it’s not super deep, but this is a date, not a therapy session. Throw some fun ones in the mix to keep things balanced.

                                        44. What do you hoard?

                                        Maybe it’s memories, maybe it’s cat mugs. Their answer to this q can tell you what holds true value to them. Also! If they’re a legit hoarder, it’s probably a good idea to know that sooner rather than later so you can address it. Just saying.

                                        45. What year was your favorite birthday?

                                        Was it the year their friends threw them a huge surprise party, or the year they spent alone, drinking beer and reading a book? Sure, this can help you come up with ideas down the line, but more importantly, it gives you an idea of what makes them feel special.

                                        46. What’s your favorite way to spend a day off?

                                        If you’re the kind of person who wants to spend your weekends relaxing with some wine instead of waking up early to go hiking, it’s a good idea to see if your future partner’s on the same page.

                                        47. What’s your favorite part of the workday?

                                        Granted, plenty of people aren’t the biggest fans of clocking into their jobs, but are you with an optimist or a pessimist? Regardless of how much your job sucks, there’s probably something good about it—even if it’s just the iced coffee that makes you 15 minutes late every morning or the check that pays for your shoe obsession. This can clue you in to whether you not you’d be listening to work complaints every day for the rest of your life if you end up together.

                                        48. Have you ever been to a family reunion?

                                        Not only will this give you deets about their extended family (and if you’ll be expected to go to their grandma’s house every 4th of July), but it can also be how you learn if they have a secret castle in England or is the heir to the Toaster Strudel fortune.

                                        49. Where would you be happiest to live?

                                        First of all, it sucks to start getting serious about someone only for them to move across the country because they always wanted to live in Colorado. Potential LDRs aside, someone’s dream location will probably give you a good idea of what sort of environment makes them happiest.

                                        50. Have you ever read a book that changed your life?

                                        Especially if you’re a reader, this is a super powerful question. Books tend to be extremely personal, and knowing what genres they like and what stories moved them can give you a deep insight into who they are. Plus, you might just get some awesome book recs that you two can chat about on your next date.

                                        51. What age do you feel like?

                                        As someone who feels like a perpetual 12-year-old, this is always an interesting one to ask. Are they an old soul, or young at heart? This can also give you an idea of where they are in their life because if they feel older or younger than their age, it might give you an idea of what they’re looking for in a relationship.

                                        52. When was the last time you felt excited? And what was it for or because of?

                                            Licensed marriage and family therapist Billie Tyler suggests following up with questions like “What do you think excites you about that?” and “How do you know you are truly enjoying something?” to dive even deeper.

                                            53. What’s the funniest thing your inner child wants?

                                            Maybe it’s to eat dessert before dinner or twirl around outside while singing at the top of their lungs. Whatever it is, it’s the perfect excuse to do something unique on your date and learn a little more about their playful side.

                                            54. If you ended up in jail, what would your friends and family think you did?

                                                This answer could go one of two ways: It could be funny—like, I’d personally be arrested for robbing a CVS of all of their Reese’s peanut butter cups. But it could also be more serious and bring up events that may have happened in the past.

                                                Just remember: “You want to get into the person’s values, personality, beliefs, and pivotal moments that made them who they are today,” says relationship expert Sophie Mona Pagès, founder of LVRSNFRNDS.

                                                55. What’s your go-to French fry dip?

                                                No, it’s not going to solely determine whether you have a future together, but a shared love of ranch could be the start of a beautiful relationship. Also, whether they’re a health nut or feel impassioned about waffle fries over curly fries, this is your chance to learn more about their food habits and drunchie preferences.

                                                56. Have you ever become intensely invested in the fate of a TV show character?

                                                This is more fun to ask than “what’s your favorite show” because it’s a little more nuanced and gives insight into the types of characters that capture your date’s attention. Follow up with questions about why they were interested in the character and how they felt about where their story went (if you’re cool with spoilers, that is).

                                                57. If your life were a movie, what scene would you watch over and over again?

                                                    One time a date hit me with this question, and I’ve loved it ever since. It may take the person some time to come up with an answer on the spot, but it’s worth the wait.

                                                    58. Thoughts on scary movies?

                                                        Apparently, if both of you are into scary movies, this is highly compatible, says marriage and family therapist Kati Marquez Meyers. Oh, and “people who enjoy scary movies tend to enjoy other adrenaline-inducing activities and also tend to identify themselves as risk-takers.”

                                                        59. What movie always makes you sad? What movie makes you happy?

                                                        Are they a Titanic type of person or a Lincoln type? Might as well know now if you’re going to be faced with a lifetime of falling asleep in theaters or arguing over who gets the remote.

                                                        60. What embarrassing moment has stuck with you over the years?

                                                        We all have moments that make us want to crawl in a hole and die, but being with someone who can laugh at past missteps is an extremely attractive quality, and shows they might be good at letting things go. Just be prepared to dish your embarrassing moments if you bring this up in convo!

                                                        61. On a scale of 1-10, how well do you seize the day?

                                                        Adding a scale makes answering more abstract questions a little easier since chances are their response changes depending on the day, situation, and mood. Listen to their response and the “why” after it as well. Are they working hard to build a foundation for the future, or do they care more about experiencing the now and aren’t as focused on what’s down the line? This can cue you into their goals and how they might align with yours.

                                                        62. What would be your last meal?

                                                        This is more fun to ask than “what’s your favorite food,” and you’ll probably get a better idea of the specific dishes they like. Plus, if this is a love connection, you now have the perfect menu for their birthday or special occasion.

                                                        63. What do you like about yourself today?

                                                        Some days we feel more confident than others, but it’s always important to take time to remember why you’re awesome. This will also give you some idea of what they value in others, whether it’s that their hair looks good or they spent all morning meal prepping for the week.

                                                        64. What is an area of your life where you feel like something is missing?

                                                            Meyers adds: “This question inspires self-reflection and invites discussion into your partner’s deeper innate wants, desires, and areas where they might be feeling inadequate.”

                                                            65. Does social media make you feel better or worse about yourself?

                                                            Are you looking for a partner who will share their life with your followers or someone who’s a little more private? How do you feel about being with someone who spends a lot of time scrolling? Chatting about your opinions and expectations surrounding social media can help determine whether you’ll be compatible down the line. If one of you is always taking selfies and the other doesn’t know how to hashtag, you might find yourselves butting heads.

                                                            66. What’s the best decision you’ve made in your life?

                                                                We all have a story to tell, and this question specifically gives a glimpse of a person’s past and how they tackle challenges in their life.

                                                                67. What’s the best decision you’ve made today?

                                                                Do they love that they took a walk? Wore the green shirt? Ordered the pasta instead of a salad? This will give you a glimpse at what they value in the everyday. Pro tip: You might want to follow up that this isn’t a trick question so they don’t think they have to answer going on the date with you.

                                                                68. Would you consider yourself healed from the past?

                                                                This includes whether they’re healed from their past breakup, childhood trauma, a recent conflict at work, etc. “You don’t want to enter a relationship with someone who will project issues of the past onto you that are unrelated to you,” says counselor Sarah E. Williams. “Asking this question can help you determine if they are whole and fully ready to love.”

                                                                69. Which traits of your parents do you hope to never gain?

                                                                This will give you some insight into their relationship with their family, and it’s a more subtle way of asking about what they value as well. Do they hope to be more present? Better at providing? Do they think their parents are perfect (which could also cause problems down the line)? Pay close attention not only to what they say but how they say it.

                                                                70. Which traits of your parents do you hope to adopt?

                                                                On the flip side, you want to know whether or not they see the good in people, and what sort of traits they value in others. Do they idolize their parents’ cooking skills? Ability to fix anything? Work ethic? No matter what their relationship is like, there’s a good chance there’s something they admire about their folks.

                                                                71. What are your long-term goals?

                                                                This is the super subtle (but actually genius!) way of asking someone what type of relationship they’re looking for. Like, hi, are they envisioning a life full of kids and family vacays, or do they talk of traveling solo with no mention of a long-term romantic partner? While they don’t need to be like, “I WANT TO GET MARRIED NOW,” at least a general future plan that could involve an SO is nice to know before you get in too deep.

                                                                72. What are some of your biggest fears?

                                                                This can be as simple as spiders and snakes, or as deep as commitment, loneliness, and/or abandonment. “This question allows individuals to understand their partner’s vulnerabilities and sharing fears will strengthen the foundation of the relationship,” says psychiatrist Leela R. Magavi, MD. “It will also help gain insight into someone’s past and what helped to shape them.”

                                                                73. What are some of your biggest irrational fears?

                                                                Now that you got heavy, let’s get a little light. Irrational fears can actually be very telling about past experiences, or you just might have a chuckle over the fact that you’re both deathly afraid of peeing with the shower curtain closed.

                                                                74. What music really affects your mood?

                                                                Maybe they get amped up with show tunes or can’t stand classical music. While a shared taste of music isn’t exactly a deal-breaker or sealer, it will not only give an idea of their likes and dislikes, but it can shine a light on how different stimuli affect their moods.

                                                                75. Who do you look up to the most?

                                                                In whatever way you want to interpret it, there’s a big difference between looking up to your grandpa versus someone like LeBron James. Whoever they look up to, this question will help “conceptualize the partner’s core values and personality type,” says Dr. Magavi.

                                                                76. What’s your love language?

                                                                Truly, the MVP of all questions. “This helps individuals identify their partner’s mode of giving and receiving love, which may improve communication and strengthen the relationship,” says Dr. Magavi. So take the quiz yourself to find out which of the five love languages is your strongest: words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, giving and receiving gifts, or acts of service.

                                                                77. Where do you see yourself in five years?

                                                                “This question is great because it gives you an idea of that person’s goals and life vision. You can determine if they’re compatible with yours,” says Jonathan Bennett, a relationship expert.

                                                                78. What do you love most in your life right now?

                                                                This question unpacks not only what the other person values, but also lets you glance into your potential compatibility, says Veronica Grant, a love and life coach. There’s no right or wrong answer, but depending on your personality (like you’re a go-getter and they’re happy just coasting through life), this question will take you straight to any potential personality clashes. You can either weed them out, or start a fun convo about what the two of your visions together would look like, says Grant.

                                                                79. Which TV or movie character do you identify with and why?

                                                                “I love this question because it breaks the ice and helps paint a picture without anyone getting caught up in their own ego. We are taught to identify ourselves by our jobs, hobbies, and our education (boring!), and this question totally lightens things up a lot,” explains Nancy Ruth Deen, a relationship coach.

                                                                80. What was your last wish, like on your birthday or the last time you threw a coin into a fountain?

                                                                Their answer will let you know what they think is unfulfilled in their life and what they hope for, says Diane Strachowski, PhD, a licensed psychologist and expert on attachment theory. Did they wish for love? Money? A promotion?

                                                                81. What happened in your last relationship that led you two to break up?

                                                                “If they blame the other person and don’t take responsibility for their own part of it, watch out,” warns Margaret Paul, a relationship expert. Nothing says red flag like someone with nothing but “crazy” exes. Smh.

                                                                82. What is your relationship like with your family?

                                                                Not everyone is super close with their family, but depending on how they view their relationship with them, this can tell you a lot. “Sometimes, what’s going on in the family can have a big effect on the relationship,” says Paul.

                                                                83. Who did you turn to as a child when you were scared, lonely, or hurt?

                                                                If they say “no one” and dealt with stressful situations alone, this is a good indicator that this is how they’ll handle current and future stressors now. On the other hand, if they went to their parents all the time for everything, they might need a lot of validation from a partner, explains Strachowski.

                                                                84. What are you most proud of and why?

                                                                This question lets you see what they value and how they spend their free time, explains Strachowski. Are they most proud of how their city soccer team went 10-0 last year, or do their eyes light up when they talk about the coffee table they built for their apartment?

                                                                85. How do you deal with finances? Do you spend too much or too little?

                                                                Sure, combining finances is a step for WAY down the line, but still, it’s worth asking as finances can be a huge issue in relationships, according to Paul. It can also be a good indicator of how they deal with life, in general. Are spontaneous weekend trips to Paris going to be a thing? Or are you guys gonna cook dinner at home more often than not?

                                                                86. What do you need during periods of stress? Do you call someone to vent? Do you spend time alone to think it through?

                                                                How they answer will let you know what they expect from close ones during rough times, whether it be closeness and a shoulder to cry on, or space, explains Strachowski. If you wind up dating and you find that they withdraw from you when they’re lonely, remind yourself of this so you don’t take it personally.

                                                                87. Who is your biggest influence and why?

                                                                This question can give you insight into a person’s core values, according to Bennett. If they name their single mother for raising them, they value responsibility and family. If they rattle off someone like Woody Allen, you can run.

                                                                88. What are your favorite addictions?

                                                                By addictions, we mean anything from chocolate, to working out, to Netflix. “Everyone has some addictions,” says Paul. The question is, are they going to be honest?

                                                                89. Are you a neat person or a messy person? Are you an on-time person or a late person?

                                                                Someone’s baseline definition of “messy” can be super insightful. Are they gonna be pissed if you spread all your makeup out on the counter for a night out, or will you be annoyed if the laundry piles up on a chair for a week? “It’s much easier if you are both neat or both messy, or both on time or late,” Paul adds.

                                                                90. Use five words to describe your mother/father, giving examples to support each.

                                                                Depending on how they answer, you can gain a lot of info on what they did or didn’t get from their parents and what they admire or look for in a person of the opposite or same sex, says Strachowski.

                                                                91. Do you believe in karma?

                                                                “This is a good question to get to know someone because it shows whether they believe there are consequences to their actions,” says Laurie Berzack, MSW, a relationship expert and dating coach. If a coworker screws them over at work, are they going to stay up for days stewing about how to get revenge, or are they more the type to forgive and forget?

                                                                92. What was the scariest moment of your life, and how did you handle it?

                                                                This one is interesting because it can open the door to either emotional history or just life stories in general. Was it when they got laid off from their dream job or was it when they got lost while hiking with friends? How they answer reveals their ability to overcome conflict and challenges, says Berzack.

                                                                93. Where is your happy place?

                                                                Another open-ended cutie that can segue into good follow-up questions, depending on how they answer. If it’s a physical place like the gym, or that one great hiking spot on their favorite trail, you can talk about those interests. If it’s a more abstract answer like “any time I finish a book that’s so good I immediately flip to the first page and start again,” that’s a good convo starter, too. “This question allows you to learn what the other person truly enjoys in life,” says Bennett. You can also use it to plan for future dates, gift ideas, etc.

                                                                94. What makes you cry and why?

                                                                “Knowing someone’s soft side is important to know what triggers them. If they don’t cry, they may not be sensitive,” says Strachowski. Again, if you’re sobbing on a movie date in the future and look over to see nothin’ but stoicism on their face, they’re not a heartless robot—they just have a higher cry threshold than you.

                                                                95. When was the last time you got really angry, and why?

                                                                This can be an unobtrusive way to find out the extent to which your date is trying to control the world around him or her, says Berzack. Plus, it opens the door for some lighthearted hate-bonding, whether it be over little or big things. Was the last time they got fired up because someone cut them off in traffic? Or, when they saw a bunch of people during rush hour refuse to give up their seat to an elderly person?

                                                                96. What is your best quality?

                                                                “It’s always interesting to see what a person thinks is their best quality. By asking this question, you get insight into how the person views themselves and what they think is an important aspect of who they are,” explains sex therapist Christopher Ryan Jones.

                                                                97. Which song or artist are you too embarrassed to say you absolutely love right now?

                                                                Not only does this give you a chance to potentially geek out over which Taylor Swift album is best (the only correct answer is “Folklore,” obviously), but it also shows playfulness and vulnerability, especially if you’ve just met, says Deen.

                                                                98. Are you friends with any of your exes?

                                                                This question lets you know two important things in one, explains Jones. It gives you insight into their past relationships and how they ended (does everything seem to go up in a huge wreck or do things end amicably?), and if they are friends, you’ll know now and won’t be surprised if/when they get a text from an ex they’re still close with.

                                                                99. Ask them to complete this sentence: “I most enjoy having someone to do ______ with.”

                                                                Sometimes, a person’s intentions can be clearly discussed by simply asking them. Strachowski recommends listening closely to see if what they’re seeking aligns with what you can give someone right now. Are they looking for a romantic partner, a best friend, or just a casual movie buddy?

                                                                100. If money wasn’t a factor, what would you be doing with your life right now?

                                                                This is a fun one that can tell you a lot about a person and their passions without them feeling too self-conscious about it, explains Deen. Do they want to be directing movies? Working with animals? Traveling the world? Depending on their answer, you’ve also got great banter to go off of afterward.

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                                          30 Tips for How to Give a Good Hand Job, According to Sex Experts

                                          Once upon a time, the classic hand job was merely one of the first bases toward penetrative sex. That was back when penetration was basically the definition of intimacy and we, for some reason, spoke in baseball metaphors. But the days of handies being considered a stepping stone (or plate, if you will) instead of the main event are officially over, and learning how to give a hand job—like a good hand job—isn’t nearly as meet-me-under-the-bleachers-after-study-hall as you might think.

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                                          Now granted, if you view hand jobs as juvenile, then that’s exactly what they’ll be, explains sexologist Malika O’Neill, founder and CEO of The Pleasure Collective. But that’s why you’ve gotta change your perspective, she says. And according to sex therapist, coach, and founder of Modern Intimacy, Kate Balestrieri, PsyD, manual stimulation (which is the more formal definition of a handy), is an important part of erotic play for all ages.

                                          “Using your hands allows you to stimulate your partner’s penis with movements and sensations that penetration cannot replicate,” Dr. Balestrieri says. “They are totally different experiences.” Plus focusing solely on your partner’s pleasure every once in a while is an A+ way to connect and pamper.

                                          But before you just grumble and half-heartedly grab your partner’s genitals, certified sexologist Sara Tang says it’s important to reframe your mindset. If you literally view the act as a “job,” that’s what it’s going to feel like. “Take a playful approach, instead of a goal-oriented or task-focused one,” she explains. While you NEVER have to give anyone manual sex—and you can always stop if you want—if you do decide to engage in some manual partner play, put some heart in it.

                                          Ultimately, incorporating handies into your sexual routine can be exciting and pleasurable for both partners. So, if you’re game, here are 30 of the best, expert-recommended hand job tips out there. Grab a bottle of lube and get ready to go a lil old school.

                                          1. Make eye contact.

                                          It doesn’t matter what type of sex you’re having—eye contact is like an all-encompassing sexual secret weapon. “Checking in with your partner through eye contact tells them you are connected with them [and] their pleasure,” explains Dr. Balestrieri. “[That] you’re attuned, invested.” We don’t mean have a staring competition with your playmate, but long, lingering glances and a few smoldering looks will go a long way during a HJ. Plus it’s très hot to look in the eye of the person you’re pleasuring (and vice versa). Try it!

                                          2. Try an arousal serum.

                                          While the importance of lube can’t be overstated (pls see #12), one of the most fun—and multitasking—ways to elevate a hand job is with a stimulating oil or lube. Dr. Balestrieri highly suggests Trojan’s Arouses + Intensifies lube because it not only gives a pleasurable warming/tingling sensation (that reviewers say results in extremely “intense orgasms”), but it’s also condom safe! You need to use lube anyway, so you might as well use some that’ll result in firework-style climaxes, ya feel?

                                          3. Massage their thighs.

                                          Before just grabbing onto the shaft and going at it, Dr. Balestrieri suggests starting instead by massaging your partner’s inner thighs. This area is extremely sensitive, she explains, and by rubbing the thighs, you can “build a heightened anticipation for pleasure.” Try casuallyyyy sweeping over the penis until you hit the belly button, then start again at the inner thighs, working in broad circles. If your partner seems super receptive to the thigh touch, Dr. Balestrieri says to rub the area *while* stimulating the penis to add some extra sensation.

                                          4. Or give them an all-over rubdown.

                                              If you have the time or simply want to make things even more erotic, Tang suggests viewing the hand job as more of a sensual massage experience by giving your partner a full rubdown. Grab some oil or lube and start by massaging your partner’s back, butt, and feet. This helps warm up and prepare the entire body, Tang explains. “As you glide over their skin, begin focusing more and more attention on the penis.”

                                              5. Get turned on.

                                              Yup, feeling sexually excited yourself will actually make your handies even better, says ASTROGLIDE resident sexologist Jess O’Reilly, PhD. “The more aroused you are, the more naturally everything will flow,” she explains. “Your enthusiasm will be palatable, so make sure the pleasure is just as much your own as your partner’s.”

                                              6. Watch them masturbate.

                                              Your partner probably knows some of their favorite ways to be touched, and an easy way to mimic that is by literally just watching them masturbate, says international sex educator and creator of the Sex Hacker Pro Course Kenneth Play. If you’re both comfortable with it, a lil show and tell can go a long way.

                                              7. And pay attention to their technique.

                                              As your partner’s going at it, Taylor Sparks, an erotic educator and founder of Organic Loven, suggests making a mental note of the types of strokes they use and areas they focus on.

                                              “Do they stay more to the top around the head of the penis or full stroke top to bottom, or somewhere in the middle with shorter strokes? [Your partner] is your best teacher on how they love their penis stroked,” she explains. You don’t have to do the exact same thing, but you’ll def want to play off of what you see they already like.

                                              8. Bring on the applied pressure.

                                              During penetrative sex, the walls of the vagina or anus kind of hug the penis, giving it a nice tight feeling, explains O’Neill. When giving a handy, keep this in mind and try to mimic that feeling by wrapping your hands around their penis and gradually increasing the pressure.

                                              9. Mimic what you like.

                                              If you have a penis, chances are you already have a good idea of what feels good. If you’re a vagina owner, you can still apply some of the same techniques to your partner that you use on yourself. O’Neill suggests using the same amount of pressure and speed you’d use to rub your clitoris to rub your partner’s shaft.

                                              10. Get vocal.

                                              The real secret to a great handy is to figure out exactly what your partner wants. Sex educator Jennifer Rahner says simply asking what they like is one of the most efficient ways to become a pro. Whether your partner prefers lots of lube or just a little (uncircumcised people sometimes enjoy stimulation without lube, says Rahner) or if they like a light touch or firm touch, the best way to figure it out is to ask. O’Neill suggests asking something like “Does that feel good?” or “Would you like it tight?” to get the ball rolling.

                                              11. Make it a lil less stale.

                                              So, hand jobs can sometimes seem like a checklist item, but that’s the exact wrong way to go into giving one. Sparks suggests giving a hand job with the purpose of destressing and pleasing your partner. “There’s no reason why blow jobs should get all the glory when hand jobs can be just as pleasurable,” says O’Neill.

                                              12. Also hi, hello, please use lube.

                                              “The number one hand job tip is lube, lube, lube,” says Sofiya Alexandra, co-founder and co-host of the Private Parts Unknown podcast. Too much friction is a hand job’s main nemesis, she explains, so it’s a good idea to always have lube on hand, and don’t be afraid to apply it so you can skip any awkward dryness.

                                              13. Get their balls involved.

                                              Try some light ball massage if your partner is into it. The amount of pressure will depend on each person, but don’t shy away from touching their balls, as it can be super pleasurable for them—and make you feel like a sexual rockstar. Playing with your partner’s balls during a hand job is a common tip both O’Neill and Dr. Balestrieri give others to improve their handies.

                                              14. Compliment them.

                                              Everyone likes a compliment, so be sure to let your partner know how much you admire them. “Tell your lover if their penis looks good, tastes great, feels amazing in your hands or mouth,” suggests Tang. “Some people have a lot of insecurities around their genitals, and it helps to relax and reassure them to know that you are enjoying the experience and not judging them for their size or shape.”

                                              15. Use both hands.

                                              If you’ve exhausted the one-hander, try getting all fancy with two hands. Sex and relationship expert Emily Morse, host of the Sex With Emily podcast, says to try the two-handed twist: Stack both hands on their shaft, one on top of the other. Then, twist your hands slowly in opposite directions, taking time to vary the pressure so you’re also gently stroking and squeezing.

                                              16. Get a rhythm going.

                                              O’Neill suggests using an up and down stroking motion up the shaft of your partner’s penis, and then twisting your hands ¼ either way. Once you can tell your partner is about to climax, focus the pressure more toward the head of their penis. O’Neill also recommends using long “milking strokes” once your partner reaches climax.

                                              17. Treat it like an entree, not an appetizer.

                                              It might be called a “job,” but no one wants it to feel like one, no matter if they’re the giver or the receiver, explains Dr. Balestrieri. “Try to take a position of wanting to please your partner, and channel the enthusiasm you hope they’d put forth when it’s your turn to receive,” she says. Just like you don’t like it when someone goes down on you for 15 seconds and pops up like, “you good?” people don’t generally like it when you give their dicks three rapid tugs and then move on to something else.

                                              You can always, always, change your mind about what you do and don’t want to do during sex, but if you’re down to HJ, make it a fulfilling moment in your sex sesh and not just a checklist item.

                                              18. Use ~natural~ lube…

                                              Aka your spit. It won’t be as long-lasting or slick as the stuff you get at a store, but in a pinch, it’s an economical (and sexy) way to cut down on friction. And there’s no bigger hand job fail than friction. And yup, you can literally just spit on it. It’s somehow v sexy, so just go with it.

                                              19. Make it a combo BJ/HJ.

                                              The best blow jobs are those that incorporate the hands, and the same goes for the mouth during hand jobs. It helps you accomplish the previous point about natty lube, and it also gives your hands and all their tired muscles (from, you know, holding a phone all day) a rest.

                                              20. Make it a (consensual!!) surprise.

                                              A huge benefit of a hand job is that it can be done sneakily. We’re not exactly condoning or encouraging doing handies in public places, but if you wanted to get a HJ going while you’re sitting side-by-side on the couch watching a movie, that would be good and acceptable.

                                              21. It’s all mental.

                                              Jacqui Oliver, a psycho-sexual relationship consultant, says to get your partner started by having them imagine the hot and heavy stuff that’s about to go down. Don’t be afraid to talk dirty! Getting into the right mindset can turn second base from a pit stop to the actual destination.

                                              22. Hold it steady.

                                              Oliver says to make a “V” shape with your thumb and pointer finger to support the base of the penis and add slight downward pressure. This holds the penis in place as it becomes erect so it doesn’t “bounce” around too much.

                                              23. Stretch it out.

                                              Apply some lube in your other hand, and slowly stretch out the length of the penis with your other hand (your thumb should be pointing down towards the balls). Once your lubed hand nears the top of the penis, you can bring your support hand up and repeat the same slow stretch. Repeat until you’re both impressed by your hand dexterity.

                                              24. Use your fingers.

                                              Sure, it’s called a hand job, but using your finger pads to create a delicate touch can be super stimulating and unexpected. Antonia Hall, a psychologist and relationship expert, suggests using the pads of your fingers and lubrication to glide up and down your partner’s shaft.

                                              25. Keep an eye out for their sweet spots.

                                              Hall explains the frenulum (under the tip of the penis), the perineum (area just beneath the balls), and the base of the penis are three sensitive spots to pay extra attention to. You’ll want to make sure you stimulate these areas somehow.

                                              26. Read their signals.

                                              Just because you’ve asked them what they like, it doesn’t mean you can zone out and just phone it in until they climax. You’ll also want to pay close attention to their body language during stimulation. “Listen to your partner’s body—their breath, their noises, the way they move,” says Rahner. “These can all show signs that you’re on the right track.”

                                              27. Free up a hand.

                                              30 Tips for How to Give a Good Hand Job, According to Sex Experts

                                              First, you’ll need a really good silicone lube because duh = more movement, more lube. We’re big fans of Lelo’s lube as it feels hella luxe and the bottle is basically a work of art. Once you’re lubed enough, try seamlessly bringing your hand from the base of the shaft up and over the head, squeezing gently on the head, and then working your way back down. Morse also suggests using your other hand for stimulating yourself (and putting on a bit of a show).

                                              28. Focus on the head.

                                              Go ahead and reapply your lube here, because you want things very lubed up when you’re stimulating the head of the penis. Morse says to use one hand to stroke from the base to the head, and then using your other hand, gently squeeze and play with the head of the penis.

                                              29. Make yourself comfortable.

                                              No good partner wants you to get a weird cramp in your wrist, and you’ll enjoy yourself way more as the giver too if you know that you don’t have to stay glued in one position until completion. Sure, they might be soaking it all up, but you’re the star of the show here.

                                              Morse suggests playing around with your own positioning as you pleasure your partner so they can see all of you at different angles. “You can have them lie down while you sit up and pleasure them, or you can have them stand up while you sit beneath them,” she says. “There are an infinite amount of positions to try, and don’t forget the art of the tease!”

                                              30. Let them finish on you if it sounds hot to you.

                                              Tang says one of the hottest ways to cap off a hand job is to offer a part of your body (e.g. breasts, tummy, neck, face, or even feet) for them to cum on—if it sounds hot to you too, ofc. “And don’t race for the tissues or jump straight into the shower,” she adds. “Tell them how much they turned you on. Take their penis in your hands and give it a gentle caress. Give them a deep, lingering kiss.”

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                                            14 Best Cheap Sex Toys 2022


                                            Unfortunately, sex toys can be pretty expensive. And I’m not just talking about those super high-tech devices either; I mean your simple bullet or wand vibrators and suction toys. If you want a quality toy that won’t give out on you after just one use, you might find yourself shelling out upwards of $150 a pop. And honestly? That can quickly become a very costly habit when it doesn’t need to be.

                                            While we all want the latest and flashiest thing on the market, there are a ton of great sex toys that are really affordable. The best cheap sex toys should be made with body-safe materials like platinum-grade silicone or borosilicate glass. Even though they’re affordable, they won’t lack the quality that you need to have a safe and pleasurable time.

                                            To help make the shopping process a little easier for you, I found 14 top-tier sex toys all under $50. From a super sleek glass dildo to the ever-popular rose stimulator, below you’ll find amazing quality sex toys that won’t break the bank. Happy shopping!

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                                            If you’re in the market for a classic vibe that won’t give out on you after one use, this is it. It has three vibration settings and a soft flutter-tip for targeted stimulation.


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                                            Rose Clitoral Suction Stimulator

                                            Even if you haven’t seen this beauty on TikTok, you’ve def heard about it. This flower-shaped suction toy is perfect for those who like more discrete toys. It has 10 different suction modes, so you can have fun finding which one is your favorite.


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                                            This is such a great vibe for beginners. It has an easy-to-read control panel so you can effortlessly go back and forth between its three speeds and seven patterns.


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                                            Endless Joy Couple’s Vibrator

                                            This isn’t your typical vibrator. This toy can work for both genitals and has 14 different ways to use it. From nipple clamps to penetration, this toy will keep you on your toes all night long.


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                                            Satisfyer Pro 2 Air-Pulse Clitoris Stimulator

                                            If clitoris stimulation is more your thing, this should be your new toy. The Satisfyer Pro is one of the most talked-about sex toys on the market. This toy uses pressure-wave technology to create a suction-like feeling that mimics a very experienced mouth if you know what I mean.


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                                            Ever feel like your ex couldn’t get the job done? Well, now you can with this lil finger vibe ring. With its 10 different settings, you can turn your typical masturbation session into a mind-blowing experience with this gem.


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                                            Lulu 7+ Personal Wand Massager & Vibrator

                                            There is sooooo much to love about this pretty wand. Not only does it remember the last setting that was used, so you can jump right back to where you left off, but it also has 20 vibrating patterns and five different speed levels. So that’s 160 (!!) different vibration modes for you to discover your fave.


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                                            Eggplant Emojibator™

                                            Alright, admit it. You’ve used the eggplant emoji at least once in your life. Now, you can use it IRL with this cute vibe. It has 10 different speeds and is waterproof, so you can hop from the shower to the bed with this lil guy.


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                                            Not only is this intergalactic-looking glass dil super nice to look at, but it feels even better inside. Its curved edges allow for great internal stimulation, and since it’s glass, it’s the perfect opportunity to give temperature play a try by dropping it in hot or cold water.


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                                            This adorable mini vibe hails from luxury sex toy Lelo’s sister brand, Pico Bong. Intended to be the place to get your first vibrator or sex toy from, Pico Bong creates fun and pleasurable toys made with Lelo’s quality at a fraction of the price.


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                                            Whisper Wand

                                            Wand toys are def exciting, but their size can be a little intimidating. This mini version fits in the palm of your hand and has three intensities for a small but powerful stimulation.


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                                            Zee Bullet Vibrator

                                            You can skip those pesky tiny batteries with this blue gem. Yep, no AAA batteries required! Instead, it’s USB rechargeable, so you’ll never have to worry about it completely dying on you—you’re just one quick charge away from a great O.


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                                            Nudge The People’s Plug

                                            Interested in trying anal play? Give this blue plug a try. It has a soft curved tip for easy and comfortable insertion. Plus, at only 4.25 inches long, it’s a great starter plug for first-timers.


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                                            Inner Goddess Silver Metal Pleasure Balls

                                            If you’ve read the iconic Fifty Shades series, then you know what these silver balls are. Inspired by the book, these silver metal balls are a great option for someone who’s used Kegal balls in the past but wants a bit more of a challenge. Each ball is 3.75 inches in circumference and has a combined weight of 221 grams.

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